October 27th, 2022
by Brian Cropp
by Brian Cropp
The Mistake
Trying to change my spouse
- Expecting your spouse to change things they can't or shouldn't change
- Not accepting and appreciating legitimate differences
- Not working on changing those things about yourself that need to change
The Effects
Frustration, conflict, and stagnation
- The more you try to change your spouse, the more likely they are NOT to change
- Neither of you changes
- Resentment build
- Both become stubborn, and the relationship gets stuck
What to Do
Strive to understand, accept, and appreciate your spouse's strengths while working to know, understand, and change your own short-comings
Most importantly, speak truth in love
- Work on yourself FIRST
- Stop trying to change your spouse
- What about YOU needs to change?
- Focus on understanding, accepting, appreciating, and building up your spouse
- As a man or a woman
- Their personality
- Their maturity
- Their emotional make-up
- Their communication style
- Their giftedness
Most importantly, speak truth in love
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